{"id":58157,"date":"2017-04-19T19:58:48","date_gmt":"2017-04-19T17:58:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/en.erdalbora.com\/?p=58157"},"modified":"2017-04-19T19:58:48","modified_gmt":"2017-04-19T17:58:48","slug":"how-do-i-stop-comparing-myself-with-people-in-terms-of-study","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/2017\/how-do-i-stop-comparing-myself-with-people-in-terms-of-study\/","title":{"rendered":"How do I stop comparing myself with people in terms of study?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.0.6&#8243;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.0.6&#8243;][et_pb_column _builder_version=&#8221;4.0.6&#8243; type=&#8221;4_4&#8243;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.0.6&#8243; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p class=\"Box-sc-9env3-0 Text-jjrgda-0 QTextPara___StyledText-anoo6m-0 fSlQBa qtext_para\"><span>The only way to completely quiet the mind is to feel unconditional love all the time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Box-sc-9env3-0 Text-jjrgda-0 QTextPara___StyledText-anoo6m-0 fSlQBa qtext_para\"><span>The comparison thoughts that you are witnessing in your mind are a symptom of your conditioning which says you can only feel Love if you fulfill certain conditions. This is illusory\/a distortion\/a kind of falsehood. We can feel Love all the time. Go to the bottom of this by discovering the Love within yourself (First it will seem within, but actually it is your true nature). As you do this, you will discover that peace will be created in the mind, the stream of judgments will quiet down.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Box-sc-9env3-0 Text-jjrgda-0 QTextPara___StyledText-anoo6m-0 fSlQBa qtext_para\"><span>This is discovering your true self, a fundamental solution to all problems in the mind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Box-sc-9env3-0 Text-jjrgda-0 QTextPara___StyledText-anoo6m-0 fSlQBa qtext_para\"><span>This requires turning your attention to the Source of everything, and working to bring your attention there when it wanders. The more you do this, the more you will discover the unconditional love within, and the more peace will be created in your mind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Box-sc-9env3-0 Text-jjrgda-0 QTextPara___StyledText-anoo6m-0 fSlQBa qtext_para lastPara\"><span>Your mind compares because it was conditioned to believe that one deserves Love only under certain conditions. It sees some of these conditions in others and not in you. Naturally, in a constantly changing reality, one cannot remain constantly fulfilling a certain number of conditions. It is inevitable that conditional love (a conditioned mind seeking conditional love) will create disappointment and mental yearning. So life becomes a hazard course.. where changing conditions can steal your happiness and you constantly try to avoid this or that hazard. Transcend these conditions by discovering your true self. And all questions arising from the same core illusion will be resolved.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The only way to completely quiet the mind is to feel unconditional love all the time. The comparison thoughts that you are witnessing in your mind are a symptom of your conditioning which says you can only feel Love if you fulfill certain conditions. This is illusory\/a distortion\/a kind of falsehood. We can feel Love [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[19],"tags":[27,53,97,132,149,167,195,202,211],"class_list":["post-58157","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-question-answer","tag-attention","tag-competition","tag-happiness","tag-love","tag-peace","tag-seeking","tag-time","tag-unconditional-love","tag-working"],"acf":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":57572,"url":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/2017\/how-do-i-make-myself-a-good-person\/","url_meta":{"origin":58157,"position":0},"title":"How do I make myself a good person?","author":"Erdal Bora","date":"March 18, 2017","format":false,"excerpt":"","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Question &amp; Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Question &amp; Answer","link":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/category\/writing\/question-answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":5667,"url":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/2017\/how-can-i-stop-being-my-own-worst-enemy\/","url_meta":{"origin":58157,"position":1},"title":"How Can I Stop Being My Own Worst Enemy?","author":"Erdal Bora","date":"September 18, 2017","format":false,"excerpt":"","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Question &amp; Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Question &amp; Answer","link":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/category\/writing\/question-answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":58174,"url":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/2017\/how-do-i-have-better-luck-in-dating-as-a-guy-if-im-struggling-with-being-boring\/","url_meta":{"origin":58157,"position":2},"title":"How do I have better luck in dating as a guy, if I&#8217;m struggling with being boring?","author":"Erdal Bora","date":"May 2, 2017","format":false,"excerpt":"","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Question &amp; Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Question &amp; Answer","link":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/category\/writing\/question-answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":58466,"url":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/2017\/how-do-i-stop-thinking-dirty\/","url_meta":{"origin":58157,"position":3},"title":"How do I stop thinking dirty?","author":"Erdal Bora","date":"May 17, 2017","format":false,"excerpt":"","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Question &amp; Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Question &amp; Answer","link":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/category\/writing\/question-answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":57535,"url":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/2017\/how-can-i-stop-comparing-my-grade-results-to-others-better-than-me\/","url_meta":{"origin":58157,"position":4},"title":"How can I stop comparing my grade results to others better than me?","author":"Erdal Bora","date":"March 15, 2017","format":false,"excerpt":"","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Question &amp; Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Question &amp; Answer","link":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/category\/writing\/question-answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":59815,"url":"https:\/\/erdalbora.com\/en\/2015\/towards-enlightenment-4-about-moving-beyond-the-understanding-its-not-happening-i-cannot-focus-i-am-distracted-by-desires-by-life-i-feel-very-sad\/","url_meta":{"origin":58157,"position":5},"title":"Towards Enlightenment (4): About Moving Beyond the Understanding: &#8220;It&#8217;s not happening. 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