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The purpose of work must be to uplift both others and yourself. (Here I am using the word ethical in the context of serving the highest good of all): If building your own hurts your employer’s business, it is not ethical. If your employer’s business prevents you from...
Topic: Relationships
Advice please. How do you deal with a narcissistic boss/supervisor in the work place? Leaving is not an option so are there any tactics I can use to stay on the right side of a narcissistic boss?
Truth is the tactic. Your life is not just about that job as you would like to believe. Whatever you do straying from truth, will drag you more into suffering whether you keep the job or not. Whatever you do living with truth, will lead you out of suffering more...
I told my girlfriend of two years that I had thoughts of sleeping with other women early on in the relationship and she broke up with me. Is there anyway I can repair the trust? And why did I have these thoughts?
Having thoughts is no breach of trust. Why? You can see this for yourself. Close your eyes and just be aware. While you are staying aware without doing anything, thoughts will arise. Thoughts that you did not consciously plan for or ask for. This is because we have...
I’m in my mid 40s. I’ve lost all confidence in my ability to find a partner. Is that usual for my age?
You are trying to project the responsibility to circumstances. Recognize that this idea is disempowering you. Learn to be happy from within yourself. Take responsibility for this, learn from others when necessary but never subscribe to the idea that something other...
How can I be sure if I’m pretty or not? All my friends say I’m pretty but I feel like they just say that not to break my heart.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. For some people you will be pretty, and some will not find you pretty. This is entirely according to their conditioning. Enlightened people see the perfection of life. For them, everything is perfect. For them, you are one with...
How do I have better luck in dating as a guy, if I’m struggling with being boring?
This will be a definite answer to your question. The mechanism of the mind is that it seeks unconditional love. The conditioning of the mind determines how it seeks it, but it always seeks this unless it is being experienced in the present moment. Unconditional love...
How do you deal with people around you who want to suppress your personal development?
Accept them as they are and find a way to express myself being true to myself. When you accept them as they are, and express yourself being true to yourself, you will be also adjusting your expression to be in harmony with them. True personal development happens when...
On the Importance of Unconditional Love in Helping People and Building Relationships
Why Is Unconditional Love So Important When Helping/Relating With Other People
When you focus on Divine Love, this Love starts to purify you. It heals you. It helps you heal those energies that are stuck within you. By keeping your attention on Divine Love and staying as awareness, you give your Higher Self the permission to teach you with...