![Erdal Bora .com [English]](https://erdalbora.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/newlogo.png){kind=small}
The pandemic and quarantine.. almost all of us want to do something and fix the situation. What can be more natural than this? Let's do what we can in the natural flow of life.. what needs to be done will differ according to the location of the person. For some it...
Topic: Thinking
Is proper breathing during meditation long and deep or short and shallow breathing?
The breath will have developed its own tempo already because it is associated with the activity of the mind. Simply being aware of the breath is enough for the mind to start to return to peace. As peace begins to be created, you will be able to recognize your deepest...
Has meditation become a business here in the West? Because you don’t really need an app, guided meditations, sitting pillows, and more stuff to buy. A yogi in India doesn’t need anything to meditate, not even clothing.
I am not objecting to your point, here are some thoughts on this: -Sometimes guided meditations can be helpful, I benefited immensely from the guidance of an enlightened person, many times watching some of his videos, containing meditative guidance as a built in...
Are you aware of how much time is passing while meditating?
Earlier, I used to have more thoughts about time, and sometimes looking at the cell phone clock somewhere during meditation, or near the end, ‘is the time up yet’? Lately, I don’t care much about the time, since I am working to stay meditative all the time. There are...
How long is it normal to be looking for a sales job?
Ready for a deep dive? This answer themed with your question touches the deepest truths, is aimed to provide an opportunity to explore these to create experiences of freedom, happiness and wisdom for you: Normal changes according to the society you are living in. And...
What is the “ABCDE” method of organizing one’s day?
Take a careful look. You don’t live day by day aren’t you? You live moment to moment. In fact there is only this moment. There is nothing else. You are always living in this moment. Whether you are remembering a memory, or whether you are imagining the future, or...
Is it better to work 4 10 hour days or 5 8 hours days?
The ‘better’ you seek actually changes with your ability to be happy, not with how much you work. When you are truly happy, you won’t care a damn thing about how much you work. This doesn’t mean you will work yourself to death and this doesn’t mean you...
What do you think are the reasons why one should work efficiently and effectively?
If you would like to see a rather deep and profound answer, read on. There is ultimately no reason for anything. This entire existence is a container for infinite possibilities. You can find yourself thousands of reasons for whatever you choose to do. But even without...
How do you manage your stress when sales are down ?
I live a lifestyle where I strive to live such a way that stress is not created in the first place. When we haven’t yet gained conscious mastery of how we create reality, our circumstances can seem to be responsible for our stress. However, living with awareness...
How do I make an eight hour workday go by faster?
Make it a 24 hour workday. Work on listening to your heart and living with its higher intelligence. Here is a very thorough answer. Firstly, time is only a concept created by humans. Humans have created a device which divides the motion of the Earth around the Sun...
If you are unsure of what career to pursue, how can you gain clarity and find fulfillment?
First of all, what is a career? Is it a series of works we undertake to have a sense that ‘i am working, now i deserve my due’? Why do people pursue careers? Are they trying to catch hold of something that they think they don’t have right now? It must be so, if it...
What is the cause and solution for motivation loss?
If you are ready for a deep answer that can change the way you look at reality, read on. Stay with the answer, and your question will have been most completely answered in the end. Are you experiencing a loss of motivation? See.. what you are experiencing right now is...
How do you cope with stress and pressure?
Are you ready for a deep dive? I have dived deep for many years, so my answer about my approach will also reflect my experiences over the years. Here comes the answer: I take full responsibility for everything I experience. This does not mean I am personally in...
I told my girlfriend of two years that I had thoughts of sleeping with other women early on in the relationship and she broke up with me. Is there anyway I can repair the trust? And why did I have these thoughts?
Having thoughts is no breach of trust. Why? You can see this for yourself. Close your eyes and just be aware. While you are staying aware without doing anything, thoughts will arise. Thoughts that you did not consciously plan for or ask for. This is because we have...
… Has anyone really fully understood the Tao Te Ching and applied it? Would not their lives become heaven?
Full question text: The Tao Te Ching seems to contain extremely powerful wisdom, yet due to the way it is written, this wisdom is hard to fully decipher. Has anyone really fully understood the Tao Te Ching and applied it? Would not their lives become heaven? The first...
Why do we choke under pressure, and what can we do about it?
Breath and our thinking are connected. Pressure occurs within our perception. It is created by ourselves. It is related to our understanding of life. Our understanding of life is related to our thoughts and therefore the flow of our breath. If you are choking, this...
As a mental health advocate on Quora, are you risking your job or career by writing publically about your own mental illness, or do you not have a job or career left to lose? How does it feel?
If your job is endangered by sharing truth about any mental illness you may have had, then that job is not worth having. So, your boss would fire you if he knew you were ill mentally and you would keep working under his leadership? How healthy would it be for you? In...
Why can’t I control my intrusive thoughts no matter how much I try?
Note: For a quick answer, skip to the end and study the last video. However, I suggest studying this answer as well to gain a path to fuller understanding. Let’s give an analogy that might help you understand the situation from a wider perspective. Imagine that you...
I replay unwanted thoughts in my head over and over again while doing a certain action until it “feels right”. I heard this is OCD. It’s difficult to control and I hate it. How can I make these compulsions stop?
Currently who you think you are is a construct of thoughts. But in reality, you are the awareness that is the container of everything, including your thoughts, your emotions and your body. You are trying to stop the thoughts by staying identified with some other...
How can I be sure if I’m pretty or not? All my friends say I’m pretty but I feel like they just say that not to break my heart.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. For some people you will be pretty, and some will not find you pretty. This is entirely according to their conditioning. Enlightened people see the perfection of life. For them, everything is perfect. For them, you are one with...
Isn’t Zen Buddhism anti-science? It tells you to stop thinking and focus on mind numbness.
I don’t know in detail about the later interpretations of the Buddha. But true meditation is the most scientific approach possible. It is not numbing the mind, it is staying aware, staying as awareness with your experience. When awareness merges with an object, our...
Why does it often take so long to recover from job-related burnout?
Because ultimately, it was not because of the job. It is because of how you see yourself, how you see life. It is because you keep seeking happiness from outside yourself, thinking that you don’t have the innate ability to create it, and some other thing can give you...
If I confess that I am a sinner then am I forgiven and therefore not a sinner? If I must confess that I am a sinner in order for Jesus to forgive me then am I truly a sinner or not?
Sin is when you keep believing you are separate from God. Such as a God out there judging you to be good or bad. See.. when you separate God’s creation into good and bad, within your mind, all the while remaining unaware that you are the entirety of this all, one with...
Two Ideas That Are Limiting Humanity. And What Is Beyond This?
What are the Differences Between Ordinary Thinking and Critical Thinking?
Google dictionary for critical thinking says: “Critical thinking is the objective analysis and evaluation of an issue in order to form a judgement.” It is very common and ordinary to be semi-conscious, or mostly unconscious about what is going on within one’s mind in...
How does one stay motivated when there’s no hope?
No hope suggests that no path to peace/happiness seen by the person and the reality of the situation has not been accepted as it is. The primary reason of feeling hopeless is not the situation itself, it is the subjective reality of the person. Another usage of no...
How do I stop thinking dirty?
The more you correctly meditate, the more you will experience a purity of mind. When our mind is conditioned to seek happiness outside of itself, our sexual energy is subconsciously channeled towards objects in the world. When we learn/discover the unconditional love...
How can I stop thinking about work constantly?
I work as a developer. Whenever I receive an email from someone complaining about something I did (mostly small things which happen rarely), I feel really bad and wouldn’t stop thinking about it for days. It’s killing me and sometimes I wouldn’t be able to sleep at...
How can I manage to stop gaming and stop thinking about it?
Question Details: I am 15. I wanna stop gaming forever. I want to get my life in order. Get good grades, get fit but i can't stop thinking about gaming. I want to play games to escape depression but the only thing that is gonna help my depression are better grades and...
How do I have better luck in dating as a guy, if I’m struggling with being boring?
This will be a definite answer to your question. The mechanism of the mind is that it seeks unconditional love. The conditioning of the mind determines how it seeks it, but it always seeks this unless it is being experienced in the present moment. Unconditional love...
How do I stop thinking about gaming every single second?
Apply these steps in order: 1. Watch and do this guided meditation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxizxuTSQsk&feature=emb_logo 2. Do step 1, until you feel enough clarity to focus on reading this article about meditation: What is meditation? How to practice...
How do I focus on studying and stop thinking about gaming?
When we are in tune with ourselves, when we know that an action is truly the most important at the moment, when we truly feel its importance to our core, when we realize other alternatives are not what we truly desire, we attempt to do/move towards doing that action....
How do I stop thinking? Sometimes I can’t stop thinking even if I want to.
Learn this meditation from the following video: (practice it to learn) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxizxuTSQsk Also study this article: What is meditation? How to practice meditation. Practice meditation regularly, and peace will increasingly be created within...
Is overthinking a bad thing to a human person?
It doesn’t help with overthinking adding another thought that ‘Overthinking is bad’. Other people might be saying overthinking is bad, but what is your own experience? We must observe our own experience and see what is really happening and this way genuinely increase...
How do I deal with over thinking and rehashing a relationship that has long ended and that has turned upside down my personal and familial life?
Question Details: I am a girl. I was in a relationship with a guy for 7 years. After that, he left me and married someone else. At first, I thought I'll easily overcome this situation. It's almost two and a half years and I am not able to get over him. My friends...
How can I stop thinking about things that cannot happen because they’re haram?
Sincere practice of worship to the creator and praying that you are given the knowledge of how to live a pure life, and really dedicating yourself to this path will teach you. One must dedicate their life to this, for it to work. The real source of happiness is God,...
How can I stop comparing my grade results to others better than me?
Question Details: I always get quite depressed when my friend gets the same grade as me without even trying hard, while I gave all I had. There is also the smartest boy in class who aces every assessment - it stresses and deteriorates me. I can't help but to...
The Story of The ACC Civilization
The System That Will Give Us Happiness
Making Peace With Mental Confusion and Transforming the Mind
On Patience, Forgiveness, Trust
How to Solve ALL Your Problems
This is the third time I start writing this article. I discarded the two previous starts, first was getting too analytical and in the second one I started to write at a friend's house and he interrupted me to express himself and I allowed him. Every moment I am a new...
You Are Free
On Being Honest and Being Rejected
This Will be My Last Message Until I Achieve a Great Breakthrough in Awakening
I now see that I need to completely drop identification with my thinking mind to reach enlightenment and practice this state until I reach enlightenment. I cannot control myself while opting to remain a person with a personality. This way my past never leaves me, I am...