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Topic: Happiness
What are some good ways to keep our kids focused now that they have to do their schoolwork from home?
Suppose you had a guru at home who did just what you are going to do in essence to your children. Suppose that the guru was using some good ways to keep you focused. How would you feel about that? It is actually you who needs to learn to focus because now you are...
How does art relieve stress?
It depends on where you are looking from. If art for you is an activity that you take a step back from the stress generating patterns in your mind and engage with the art from a deeper sense of peace and/or happiness within yourself, then this will relieve stress. The...
Do you find more benefits from a group meditation or from an individual meditation?
Until a person learns to meditate, guidance by enlightened people, or experienced meditators will be beneficial, because with this guidance the person will be gaining experiences that help them realize what meditation is. Once they understand, they can start...
Can Reiki be used as a relaxation technique?
I am not coming from the Japanese lineage of learning Reiki. I arrived at the experience of the energy of Reiki from a different path. I will share my understanding so that you can understand more the mechanics of how Reiki helps you when you are studying Reiki. Feel...
Why is it necessary to set your goals realistically?
Setting goals realistically, is not a requirement for one to exist. One will always exist as their true self. Setting goals realistically, will keep your investment of your energies within what you think is real. Once you achieve such a goal, you may temporarily feel...
Why do we face difficulties at work when I advance in meditation?
The difficulties sheep face when being herded by a shepherd are being shouted at and scared, being beaten with a stick in some cases.. but as long as they move along the way the shepherd desires, it will be OK for them, until the day they are sent to the butcher....
Can a poet be successful in a sales or marketing career?
I have never seen something like that, but why not? Depends on how you create your expression. To make it more clear, my answer is YES!. If you make it such that within yourself, within your heart you are totally clear about your success, totally clear about how you...
How do you overcome developer/programmer burnout?
You can!. Love the burnout. There is no need to fight it. Imagine you are putting a thread through the eye of a needle. Would getting angry and hurrying up help you to put it through? Or would simply a relaxed alertness, and a patient pace more useful? It is the same...
How long is it normal to be looking for a sales job?
Ready for a deep dive? This answer themed with your question touches the deepest truths, is aimed to provide an opportunity to explore these to create experiences of freedom, happiness and wisdom for you: Normal changes according to the society you are living in. And...
Is it easy to get burned out in a sales job that is strictly performance-based?
When you remain long enough in a situation where your heart is not in whatever you are engaging with, you get burned out. If your work environment is based on giving up the Love for the money, and you remain subscribed to this approach, you are definitely walking on...
Is it ethical to work as an employee while building your own?
The purpose of work must be to uplift both others and yourself. (Here I am using the word ethical in the context of serving the highest good of all): If building your own hurts your employer’s business, it is not ethical. If your employer’s business prevents you from...
What impels you to write? Is it subject matter or the love of writing, your job, or the encouragement of others?
I see writing as part of the eternal process of creation. In this time within eternity, humanity can benefit from written works that can be used as a tool to support one’s awakening. Why awaken? To live life as it is of course.. Right now, humanity is not generally...
What are the best frequencies for meditation?
If we go by the ‘Meditation is a state of focused awareness’ approach, we can choose an object during our meditation. For spiritual enlightenment purposes, I have focused on one of 3 objects at different times during my meditation practices. They are the breath, the...
I just heard about the unexpected departure of some employees from my new company after my boss felt he had invested in them. My boss is unhappy with them. If you were my boss how would you have felt and handled such?
You can invest in people but they will still do what they truly want to do. To avoid disappointment simply don’t have unrealistic expectations. Investing in people does not guarantee that they will make choices based on your preferences. In fact this is a rather...
Why do employers keep on focusing on my last job and experience when I have gone out from a stagnant, depressing, toxic job and had been working very hard during the past year striving to gain ground and change in it?
This means those you have met with are focusing on the past for their decisions. (read on for supportive elaboration) Are you going to focus on these employers’ decisions or are you going to keep focusing on the new direction you have set for your life? Accept them as...
I feel the need to write creatively. Is there value in pursuing it even if I don’t get paid?
Absolutely. True value is not measured by money, it is measured by the happiness (or pure life energy) you experience. And who knows, someday you can even get paid for it. The world needs happiness, and many people like people who bring happiness to the world. (Many...
Why do some corporations want part time employees to have open availability but then they only give them 15-20 hours a week when scheduling?
I am foreign to this way of working, so I can provide an outside observer perspective, with the intention to be supportive for this A2A. Open availability means, you give priority to the company for the time period you reserved for working except for emergencies. You...
Is it better to work 4 10 hour days or 5 8 hours days?
The ‘better’ you seek actually changes with your ability to be happy, not with how much you work. When you are truly happy, you won’t care a damn thing about how much you work. This doesn’t mean you will work yourself to death and this doesn’t mean you...
If I have no motivation to pursue anything, then do I have no career?
You can just live your life as you desire. Just do what comes from within you, from your heart. What if you have no career? Can you trust life enough that you can keep going having no career in the eyes of other people? What if you are experiencing your uniqueness...
How do you manage your stress when sales are down ?
I live a lifestyle where I strive to live such a way that stress is not created in the first place. When we haven’t yet gained conscious mastery of how we create reality, our circumstances can seem to be responsible for our stress. However, living with awareness...
I told my girlfriend of two years that I had thoughts of sleeping with other women early on in the relationship and she broke up with me. Is there anyway I can repair the trust? And why did I have these thoughts?
Having thoughts is no breach of trust. Why? You can see this for yourself. Close your eyes and just be aware. While you are staying aware without doing anything, thoughts will arise. Thoughts that you did not consciously plan for or ask for. This is because we have...
… Has anyone really fully understood the Tao Te Ching and applied it? Would not their lives become heaven?
Full question text: The Tao Te Ching seems to contain extremely powerful wisdom, yet due to the way it is written, this wisdom is hard to fully decipher. Has anyone really fully understood the Tao Te Ching and applied it? Would not their lives become heaven? The first...
You are given a chance/the power to return to any point in life. Where do you start from again?
🙂 Now. Always. Don’t live in the past, or the future. Past is memory, future is projection. Now is where we create. If you think that any experience you have had made you less, ultimately you are mistaken. Nothing can take away from the true you. So, there is no need...
How can I learn to accept compliments better?
The lesser your ego, the lesser it’s reactions will be able to pull you around, when it is triggered by the environment/compliments. The more awakened you are, the less you will be empowering the ego. Are compliments that different than chastisements? Perhaps...
How do I motivate a teen to learn to drive?
Connect with your heart and live from here. Then whatever you do, it will touch the heart of the teen. And if it is their heart’s desire to learn to drive, then they would be supported by your actions towards this. This is the path of the heart. When they will...
Why does it often take so long to recover from job-related burnout?
Because ultimately, it was not because of the job. It is because of how you see yourself, how you see life. It is because you keep seeking happiness from outside yourself, thinking that you don’t have the innate ability to create it, and some other thing can give you...
What is the best nootropic or nootropic stack to take prior to a job interview?
As you asked this question to me, I will answer it to give a different perspective for you to consider. The answer in my personal opinion is: None. Go as yourself and if you fail; perfect. It would be a chance for you to let go of the idea that you had to get this job...
What words of encouragement do you have to motivate someone with depression to start going for walks and runs to get healthier?
You don’t have to go for walks or runs. You don’t have to be healthy. You are free to do these things or not do these things. Your innate worth never changes because of being healthy or otherwise. Recognize that you can be as you are and still be happy and peaceful....
Does having money raise self-worth?
It is a common belief for many people that if you are rich, you are more worthy or if you have money you are worthy. There are also beliefs about money which make it ‘bad’ in the perception of many people who have these beliefs. So, people can crave to be rich due to...
Does being completely sober help you become more productive in your daily tasks?
The more clarity you have in your mind, the more effective your actions will be. With a mind in chaos, you won’t be able to accomplish what truly matters to you with efficiency. Even while being sober, the mind needs to be purified to become peaceful and calm to have...
Liberation from All Addictions – The Case of Smoking
Hello friends, In this article, I will tell you how we can be free from our addictions in general and how we can quit smoking in particular. I felt the need to add this sentence when I was in the middle of writing the article: Since this is an article that touches on...
What Does Motivation Look Like?
Motivation is an experience. It is a state of ‘experiencing’. It is being alive. Being conscious. Being present. It is when you are here and now, when your attention is in the moment, when you are living life as fully as possible. When your attention is primarily in...
How does one stay motivated when there’s no hope?
No hope suggests that no path to peace/happiness seen by the person and the reality of the situation has not been accepted as it is. The primary reason of feeling hopeless is not the situation itself, it is the subjective reality of the person. Another usage of no...
How Can I Stop Being My Own Worst Enemy?
In the comments section you have written that you were depreciated, deprecated and denigrated all the time as a child and you run yourself down because of this behavior, and that you feel you don’t count as a person. You were raised in an environment where you were...
How do I stop thinking dirty?
The more you correctly meditate, the more you will experience a purity of mind. When our mind is conditioned to seek happiness outside of itself, our sexual energy is subconsciously channeled towards objects in the world. When we learn/discover the unconditional love...
How can I manage to stop gaming and stop thinking about it?
Question Details: I am 15. I wanna stop gaming forever. I want to get my life in order. Get good grades, get fit but i can't stop thinking about gaming. I want to play games to escape depression but the only thing that is gonna help my depression are better grades and...
How do I have better luck in dating as a guy, if I’m struggling with being boring?
This will be a definite answer to your question. The mechanism of the mind is that it seeks unconditional love. The conditioning of the mind determines how it seeks it, but it always seeks this unless it is being experienced in the present moment. Unconditional love...
How do I stop thinking about gaming every single second?
Apply these steps in order: 1. Watch and do this guided meditation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxizxuTSQsk&feature=emb_logo 2. Do step 1, until you feel enough clarity to focus on reading this article about meditation: What is meditation? How to practice...
How do I focus on studying and stop thinking about gaming?
When we are in tune with ourselves, when we know that an action is truly the most important at the moment, when we truly feel its importance to our core, when we realize other alternatives are not what we truly desire, we attempt to do/move towards doing that action....
How do I stop comparing myself with people in terms of study?
The only way to completely quiet the mind is to feel unconditional love all the time. The comparison thoughts that you are witnessing in your mind are a symptom of your conditioning which says you can only feel Love if you fulfill certain conditions. This is...
How do I stop overthinking about too much gaming?
It is wonderful and perfectly natural that you want to be happy. It is a great experience to be happy while playing games. However; ask yourself this question: Do you truly want to play games to a degree that would harm you, steal from you possibilities in your life...
How do you deal with people around you who want to suppress your personal development?
Accept them as they are and find a way to express myself being true to myself. When you accept them as they are, and express yourself being true to yourself, you will be also adjusting your expression to be in harmony with them. True personal development happens when...
Why are there people that just plainly don’t want you to succeed?
Your definition of success and their definition of happiness might be in conflict. For example, they might be comparing themselves to you, and if you succeeded, they might come to feel ‘not good enough’ due to their conditioning. It is a very common aspect of many of...
Why is overthinking bad, and how do you control it?
The disadvantage of overthinking is, your attention is fixed more than you actually need on your thoughts, and meanwhile you are missing other aspects of the present moment. The mind always tries to find happiness according to the existing conditioning you have...
How can I stop overthinking every social interaction?
Question Details: I’m way too sensitive to people and end up assuming the worst about most of the time. Its really annoying, and has caused me to avoid a lot of social interaction. I know this is a stupid question, but how can I stop? (Someone will suggest to ask for...
How important is the mindset in achieving success?
Definition of mindset obtained from Google Search: “the established set of attitudes held by someone” Whether you define success as the achievement of an external set of circumstances, such as the achievement of goals, or define it as an internal state such as peace...
How do I live a decent thug life?
I will base my answer on this definition of Thug Life: “Thug life means opposite of someone having all he needs to succeed. Thug life is when you have nothing, and succeed, when you have overcome all obstacles to reach your aim” from Urban Dictionary. Everything in...
How can I stop thinking about things that cannot happen because they’re haram?
Sincere practice of worship to the creator and praying that you are given the knowledge of how to live a pure life, and really dedicating yourself to this path will teach you. One must dedicate their life to this, for it to work. The real source of happiness is God,...
How do I become personable?
I googled personable to have a starting context for this answer: “personable: (of a person) having a pleasant appearance and manner.” There are two ways that come to my mind: Actors can impersonate any person.. so learning acting you can act a personable persona. You...