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Go on with your meditation. Genuine meditation will result in the arising of the state of awareness. Remaining in awareness, in full acceptance with whatever comes up, letting it arise and then return to silence while maintaining focus on the object of the meditation...
Topic: Unconditional Love
How do I meditate for 10 minutes without any reaction to the thoughts that are coming from my mind?
The first step is to understand how to meditate. Please read this article for that. The rest of this answer builds on top of the core info in the article. To most fully experience the state of awareness, you need to most fully maintain your focus on the object of...
How do you manage people without burning out?
This answer aims to layout the principles to be a manager who has captured large amounts of life. Be selfless like the Sun. Love them unconditionally. Your light can reach billions, but you won’t be burning out. How does the Sun do it? It must be selfish, too, if you...
Why do we face difficulties at work when I advance in meditation?
The difficulties sheep face when being herded by a shepherd are being shouted at and scared, being beaten with a stick in some cases.. but as long as they move along the way the shepherd desires, it will be OK for them, until the day they are sent to the butcher....
How do you overcome developer/programmer burnout?
You can!. Love the burnout. There is no need to fight it. Imagine you are putting a thread through the eye of a needle. Would getting angry and hurrying up help you to put it through? Or would simply a relaxed alertness, and a patient pace more useful? It is the same...
How long is it normal to be looking for a sales job?
Ready for a deep dive? This answer themed with your question touches the deepest truths, is aimed to provide an opportunity to explore these to create experiences of freedom, happiness and wisdom for you: Normal changes according to the society you are living in. And...
What do you do when you aren’t worth anything?
🙂 Well I will break your question because you are worth more than nothing for me, so I would like to write an answer. 😉 In fact you are worth more than the universe itself, because the universe is happening within you, literally. Your mind might believe you are not...
What are the best frequencies for meditation?
If we go by the ‘Meditation is a state of focused awareness’ approach, we can choose an object during our meditation. For spiritual enlightenment purposes, I have focused on one of 3 objects at different times during my meditation practices. They are the breath, the...
What element in a motivational speech is the thing that inspires you?
Purity. The purer the mind of the speaker, the more purely unconditional love will be expressed through them. And for this purity to have happened, they must have had the purest intentions and honored them devotedly until it happened. So, I feel the inspiring element...
Advice please. How do you deal with a narcissistic boss/supervisor in the work place? Leaving is not an option so are there any tactics I can use to stay on the right side of a narcissistic boss?
Truth is the tactic. Your life is not just about that job as you would like to believe. Whatever you do straying from truth, will drag you more into suffering whether you keep the job or not. Whatever you do living with truth, will lead you out of suffering more...
What’s the easiest way to fix negative self worth?
Meditating on the SELF. You are the SELF, which is all life, the entirety of life. Negative self worth is an experience of suffering. Every person has their own words to express their suffering. You have used those words. Suffering exists because at some level we...
What do you do when you don’t work hard enough?
If you want to live a happy life, start accepting yourself as you are. It is possible to work and be of benefit to humanity without torturing yourself. The happier you are, the more you will be able to show others how to live happily as well, not necessarily by...
What is the Best Practical Test to Give Students After Delivering a Training on Self-Motivation?
Love them unconditionally. This is the greatest test. This is such a test that, it will show them a mirror of their highest potential, but leave them free to choose their approach also. It is impossible to fail in this test, because this test is so nurturing that, no...
What Does Motivation Look Like?
Motivation is an experience. It is a state of ‘experiencing’. It is being alive. Being conscious. Being present. It is when you are here and now, when your attention is in the moment, when you are living life as fully as possible. When your attention is primarily in...
How does one stay motivated when there’s no hope?
No hope suggests that no path to peace/happiness seen by the person and the reality of the situation has not been accepted as it is. The primary reason of feeling hopeless is not the situation itself, it is the subjective reality of the person. Another usage of no...
How Can I Stop Being My Own Worst Enemy?
In the comments section you have written that you were depreciated, deprecated and denigrated all the time as a child and you run yourself down because of this behavior, and that you feel you don’t count as a person. You were raised in an environment where you were...
How do I stop thinking dirty?
The more you correctly meditate, the more you will experience a purity of mind. When our mind is conditioned to seek happiness outside of itself, our sexual energy is subconsciously channeled towards objects in the world. When we learn/discover the unconditional love...
How can I stop thinking about work constantly?
I work as a developer. Whenever I receive an email from someone complaining about something I did (mostly small things which happen rarely), I feel really bad and wouldn’t stop thinking about it for days. It’s killing me and sometimes I wouldn’t be able to sleep at...
How do genius’s overcome boredom/lack of motivation? I can’t get motivated for school work, its too easy. What can I do to help myself?
Boredom is overcome by highly concentrated meditativeness and living your life from this state. The following video will teach the principle of it. It explains why people get bored while meditating but the same exact principle is applicable to whole life by living...
How do I have better luck in dating as a guy, if I’m struggling with being boring?
This will be a definite answer to your question. The mechanism of the mind is that it seeks unconditional love. The conditioning of the mind determines how it seeks it, but it always seeks this unless it is being experienced in the present moment. Unconditional love...
How do I stop thinking about gaming every single second?
Apply these steps in order: 1. Watch and do this guided meditation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxizxuTSQsk&feature=emb_logo 2. Do step 1, until you feel enough clarity to focus on reading this article about meditation: What is meditation? How to practice...
How do I focus on studying and stop thinking about gaming?
When we are in tune with ourselves, when we know that an action is truly the most important at the moment, when we truly feel its importance to our core, when we realize other alternatives are not what we truly desire, we attempt to do/move towards doing that action....
How do I become good at something, and how can I find out what that something is?
Ultimately, you can become good at anything, you can become anything. The entire universe is YOU. You can create any experience. The catch is, you don’t believe it right now. You believe yourself to be a limited person. Which is OK. Be totally honest with yourself and...
How do I stop comparing myself with people in terms of study?
The only way to completely quiet the mind is to feel unconditional love all the time. The comparison thoughts that you are witnessing in your mind are a symptom of your conditioning which says you can only feel Love if you fulfill certain conditions. This is...
How do I stop overthinking about too much gaming?
It is wonderful and perfectly natural that you want to be happy. It is a great experience to be happy while playing games. However; ask yourself this question: Do you truly want to play games to a degree that would harm you, steal from you possibilities in your life...
How do you deal with people around you who want to suppress your personal development?
Accept them as they are and find a way to express myself being true to myself. When you accept them as they are, and express yourself being true to yourself, you will be also adjusting your expression to be in harmony with them. True personal development happens when...
What should I do to reduce my shyness?
Wikipedia contains this sentence inside the definition of shyness: `The primary defining characteristic of shyness is a largely ego-driven fear of what other people will think of a person's behavior.` Your question feels sensible, because you don’t want to destroy...
How do I overcome doubt?
Question Details: I think that I'm not good enough to study my dream course. In high school I always thought I was going to fail but I ended up with somewhat decent marks my friends say. Doubts are on the more surface level of our minds. On the depth of ourselves is...
There are certain things in my past that I am not proud of, to put it lightly. How do I get over these things?
The events of the past can not be changed. But we can acquire the wisdom to forgive ourselves. Eventually every ‘mistake’ we make is due to lack of awareness and directing our creative energy to create our mistakes due to the lack of this awareness. We have...
Why are there people that just plainly don’t want you to succeed?
Your definition of success and their definition of happiness might be in conflict. For example, they might be comparing themselves to you, and if you succeeded, they might come to feel ‘not good enough’ due to their conditioning. It is a very common aspect of many of...
How do I deal with over thinking and rehashing a relationship that has long ended and that has turned upside down my personal and familial life?
Question Details: I am a girl. I was in a relationship with a guy for 7 years. After that, he left me and married someone else. At first, I thought I'll easily overcome this situation. It's almost two and a half years and I am not able to get over him. My friends...
How can I stop overthinking every social interaction?
Question Details: I’m way too sensitive to people and end up assuming the worst about most of the time. Its really annoying, and has caused me to avoid a lot of social interaction. I know this is a stupid question, but how can I stop? (Someone will suggest to ask for...
What are some tips for becoming successful?
Realize the impermanence of life, that life is continuously changing, and no form is permanent or can be made permanent. Therefore, if you base your success to a permanence of form, sooner or later your failure is inevitable. If one cultivates an acceptance of life...
How can I deal with someone’s statement?
It is human to feel triggered from time to time by statements by other people. Be aware of how you are feeling, do your best to stay in the present moment with awareness. Everything is interacting with everything else, this can’t be prevented. But we can learn to stay...
How do I make myself a good person?
Question Details: Everyone have shades of white, black and grey in them. How to be more of a white minded person (nothing to do with racism or skin colour here) When you believe you are not good enough and start on top of this belief to make your self good, you are...
How do I overcome pressure of society and my inner self?
Question Details: I'm giving 12th boards right now and my exams are not going well I'm scared,lot of expectations I've broke, there is going to be a lot of comments also from my own mother about my failure,I have inner self esteem destroyed too, I wanted above 90% but...
How can I stop comparing my grade results to others better than me?
Question Details: I always get quite depressed when my friend gets the same grade as me without even trying hard, while I gave all I had. There is also the smartest boy in class who aces every assessment - it stresses and deteriorates me. I can't help but to...
How do I stop laziness from ruining my life?
Learn meditation AND practice it on a persistent basis (start with short times like 5 minutes, then increase to 20 mins daily initially). A regular practice of meditation will gradually teach you and bring you to a state of calm, peaceful, relaxed awareness from where...
How do I get rid of toxic people in my life?
You can’t always control which people will enter your life or exit, especially when you have subconscious patterns that are pulling you into situations that you interact with such people. Sometimes life puts us in situations where we need to get some lessons via such...
How can I be able to get a partner if I’m so ugly?
Your looks may be defined as ugly for many people in this world. But whether your looks deserve love or not is completely subjective. You can love yourself even though you look ugly for some people just as another person can love you even though you look ugly...
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