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Question Details: I'm giving 12th boards right now and my exams are not going well I'm scared,lot of expectations I've broke, there is going to be a lot of comments also from my own mother about my failure,I have inner self esteem destroyed too, I wanted above 90% but...
Topic: Understanding
How does a youngster become successful?
Your definition of success will evolve over time. That being said: The less you empower your doubts about success and the more you stay true, the more your success will unfold in your life. Stay true? What does this mean? A part of you knows this beyond explanation,...
How can I prevent myself from using mobile constantly and follow my dream?
I admit I am working on this too, but I feel I have made some progress. ‘Mobile’ allows us to mentally browse through a huge amount of experiences in the world. Because through mobile (videos/audio/text) you can access a mental stream of information about the...
How did you get rid of overthinking?
Yes, I had a very active mind and furthermore I was identified with the thought structure in my mind as myself. I was a seeker of truth, and gave a lot of intellectual effort in understanding the nature of reality, and also trained myself physically (martial arts and...
How can I stop comparing my grade results to others better than me?
Question Details: I always get quite depressed when my friend gets the same grade as me without even trying hard, while I gave all I had. There is also the smartest boy in class who aces every assessment - it stresses and deteriorates me. I can't help but to...
Is it really possible to change through sheer will and hard work? Can you really overcome illnesses or habits you have had for years?
If what you call as sheer will is resisting the flow of life, and you keep working hard in that direction, you will experience a lot of frustration. Your efforts are not being wasted, you are just creating a lot of frustration. This frustration I think would create a...
How do I best enter the world/culture of self improvement?
I will tell you the core principle of self improvement. It is consciousness. It is awareness. It is your innate nature. It is discovering who you are. Therefore the best you can enter this world of self improvement is being true to yourself moment to moment, with keen...
How do I stop laziness from ruining my life?
Learn meditation AND practice it on a persistent basis (start with short times like 5 minutes, then increase to 20 mins daily initially). A regular practice of meditation will gradually teach you and bring you to a state of calm, peaceful, relaxed awareness from where...
How do you deal with living with judgmental people (only 2 more months)?
The answer I will write is intended to facilitate a step towards the direction you desire, not explain all the steps you will take to get there, because you will need to live your life and face your unique circumstances as these steps are revealed. I would need to be...
How can I like myself?
To define Love in words exhaustively is impossible. We all have unique personalities, and at any certain moment, Love will mean something different to each person. But, when we go beyond our minds, and feel the energy of Love directly, it is the same experience. You...
How do I get rid of toxic people in my life?
You can’t always control which people will enter your life or exit, especially when you have subconscious patterns that are pulling you into situations that you interact with such people. Sometimes life puts us in situations where we need to get some lessons via such...
I am destroying myself. How can I stop?
Question Details: -something bad happened to me 8 months ago -gained 15 kgs since then -developed a habit of binge eating, cant stop, use eating as a distraction -low self esteem -doubting my religion, not doing anything throughout the day -not studying, failing the...
What is some good advice for a 17-year-old?
Everyone has different personalities, perspectives. Everyone will tell you to do something according to themselves. If you listen to them only, hear the concepts they are telling you but do not look and see truth for yourself, you will have lived life according to a...
Life is totally meaningless. We live. We die. So what’s the point?
You are right. Life is meaningless. No single meaning can capture the essence of life. When we try to capture life into concepts, the juice of life, the essence of life into concepts, and then forget about this essence, the concepts we have created seem meaningless to...
Contemplations on Money, What to do in Life, Life Coaching, Anxiety, Covering Emotions with Food or Other Activities
Here is a message/contemplation I have shared with a friend.. I have been contemplatingso, i am staying as awareness.. and life goes on..i do chores and such.. and then nothing to do left.. i sit in front of the computer.. after a while.. i start to feel like i must...
The Story of The ACC Civilization
Anger or Mud?
The System That Will Give Us Happiness
Contemplation About a New Mode of Living
Here is what I shared with a friend today, I am also sharing this raw and unedited here: [2:43:39 AM] Erdal Bora: i am at a dilemma.. just wanted to share .. [2:43:47 AM] Erdal Bora: so that you can see the whole picture of me [2:44:47 AM] Erdal Bora: now.. today.. i...
On Shame, Love, Hope, Spiritual Growth and Enlightenment
The Solution to All of Humanity’s Problems
How To Be More Fulfilled With Less Struggle
There are two ways to feel fulfilled that I know of. The first of these approaches is to feel fulfilled by working to fulfill the conditions that we believe will fulfill us. We do actions that we think that would give us happiness. Such as achieving goals,...
Making Peace With Mental Confusion and Transforming the Mind
On Patience, Forgiveness, Trust
How to Solve ALL Your Problems -2
In the first article of this series, which I didn't know was to be a series :), I made an energetic entry to the topic, but did not elaborate intellectually on it for those who desire to understand what I am talking about more at an intellectual level. Some...
On the Importance of Unconditional Love in Helping People and Building Relationships
Towards Enlightenment (4): About Moving Beyond the Understanding: “It’s not happening. I cannot focus, I am distracted by desires, by life. I feel very sad.”
Towards Enlightenment (2): The Ground Floor of Heaven is All Well and Good, but How Do We Get In?
Heaven
In the Islamic teachings that I have been taught, from you know.. elders in the family and hearsay.. heaven was told to me as the place where all your desires will be granted. And in the highest place in heaven, you will get to see God. These beliefs are from my...
How to Trust the Universe/Life?
This article will be challenging for me. But I trust 🙂 I will create something good. Let's ask and attempt to answer the following questions to create a context for starting to tackle the main question: 1) Is the universe, is life inherently trustworthy? If we...
How to Be Happy/Peaceful Independent of External Circumstances
First of all, what is happiness? What is peace? Let's shake up these questions a bit and see what spills. Happiness is a word that points to an experience. If you ask what happiness is to many people, initially you will get varying answers, which may be close or far...
Question to My Guru and Answer, Which Comes Right After I Myself am Able to Discern a Similar Answer
Some days ago I had asked the following question (a few emotional lines have been omitted by my guru to make it more clear for the public) and today I received the answer. Below the answer of my guru, I am giving a link to a blog post I wrote a few days ago, which I...
Reawakening the Blog
Hello, The previous blog entry introduces me, from my perspective in 2011. Much has passed since until today (2014). I went through really difficult times. I learned a lot of spiritual knowledge, and started to apply it throughout those times. About a month ago, I was...
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