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Questions & Answers
In this page I am sharing answers I have created for the questions that were asked to me and some questions I answered in Quora. You can see all the answers I have created in this link and I have been making more and more of them available also here. You can use the menu on the left (scroll to bottom on mobile) to quickly find related questions&answers aligned with your interests. I hope you benefit from these answers to these contemporary questions in your journey of growth. Enjoy.
Even though I know I can do many things, somehow I can keep myself on track. What should I do to force myself to my highest limits?
Do your best in every moment. This will lead you to realize that there are no limits and you have always been free. (This is an intuitive answer, I have made a lot of progress with this, and I know I am getting closer and closer to the full experience of this) I don’t...
How do I become personable?
I googled personable to have a starting context for this answer: “personable: (of a person) having a pleasant appearance and manner.” There are two ways that come to my mind: Actors can impersonate any person.. so learning acting you can act a personable persona. You...
What do you think about the future trend of people wanting to work and travel together, like a co-working space and a hostel?
Providing services from the Internet as a business or managing a business via mobile means is a rising trend as the people of the world is communicating more and more by using the Internet. Travel is also getting easier as technology is getting more and more advanced....
What are some tips for becoming successful?
Realize the impermanence of life, that life is continuously changing, and no form is permanent or can be made permanent. Therefore, if you base your success to a permanence of form, sooner or later your failure is inevitable. If one cultivates an acceptance of life...
How can I deal with someone’s statement?
It is human to feel triggered from time to time by statements by other people. Be aware of how you are feeling, do your best to stay in the present moment with awareness. Everything is interacting with everything else, this can’t be prevented. But we can learn to stay...
How do I make myself a good person?
Question Details: Everyone have shades of white, black and grey in them. How to be more of a white minded person (nothing to do with racism or skin colour here) When you believe you are not good enough and start on top of this belief to make your self good, you are...
How do you motivate developers without having to micromanage?
Your company/department needs to have passionate leadership working towards goals that right people would be inspired to work for. Working with such leadership, inspired people can work without micromanagement. This is the ideal case. You yourself need to be inspired...
What is the most effective way to help billions of people be kinder and a little more caring?
Do your absolute best your entire life to embody these qualities. Sincere effort based on sincere desire become teachings for the person leading to enlightenment. Since there is no separation, and everything is interconnected, your efforts and awakening will have...
Do I have a psychological problem? How can I overcome it?
Express what you call ‘it’ as clearly and openly as you can to a trusted person who is knowledgeable in psychology. This way you can learn if you have a psychological problem from the perspective of psychology. How you can overcome ‘it’ depends on the nature of what...
There is a saying, “Don’t react, but respond.” What does that mean and how can one practice it in daily life?
A part of ourselves serves as an autopilot, until we are conscious enough to live our life moment to moment with awareness. The greater we are in the moment, the less the autopilot is required. This autopilot is based on our past experience and our understanding based...
How do I overcome pressure of society and my inner self?
Question Details: I'm giving 12th boards right now and my exams are not going well I'm scared,lot of expectations I've broke, there is going to be a lot of comments also from my own mother about my failure,I have inner self esteem destroyed too, I wanted above 90% but...
How does a youngster become successful?
Your definition of success will evolve over time. That being said: The less you empower your doubts about success and the more you stay true, the more your success will unfold in your life. Stay true? What does this mean? A part of you knows this beyond explanation,...
How can I prevent myself from using mobile constantly and follow my dream?
I admit I am working on this too, but I feel I have made some progress. ‘Mobile’ allows us to mentally browse through a huge amount of experiences in the world. Because through mobile (videos/audio/text) you can access a mental stream of information about the...
How did you get rid of overthinking?
Yes, I had a very active mind and furthermore I was identified with the thought structure in my mind as myself. I was a seeker of truth, and gave a lot of intellectual effort in understanding the nature of reality, and also trained myself physically (martial arts and...
How can I stop comparing my grade results to others better than me?
Question Details: I always get quite depressed when my friend gets the same grade as me without even trying hard, while I gave all I had. There is also the smartest boy in class who aces every assessment - it stresses and deteriorates me. I can't help but to...
Is it really possible to change through sheer will and hard work? Can you really overcome illnesses or habits you have had for years?
If what you call as sheer will is resisting the flow of life, and you keep working hard in that direction, you will experience a lot of frustration. Your efforts are not being wasted, you are just creating a lot of frustration. This frustration I think would create a...
How do I best enter the world/culture of self improvement?
I will tell you the core principle of self improvement. It is consciousness. It is awareness. It is your innate nature. It is discovering who you are. Therefore the best you can enter this world of self improvement is being true to yourself moment to moment, with keen...
How do I stop laziness from ruining my life?
Learn meditation AND practice it on a persistent basis (start with short times like 5 minutes, then increase to 20 mins daily initially). A regular practice of meditation will gradually teach you and bring you to a state of calm, peaceful, relaxed awareness from where...
How do you deal with living with judgmental people (only 2 more months)?
The answer I will write is intended to facilitate a step towards the direction you desire, not explain all the steps you will take to get there, because you will need to live your life and face your unique circumstances as these steps are revealed. I would need to be...
How can I like myself?
To define Love in words exhaustively is impossible. We all have unique personalities, and at any certain moment, Love will mean something different to each person. But, when we go beyond our minds, and feel the energy of Love directly, it is the same experience. You...
How do I get rid of toxic people in my life?
You can’t always control which people will enter your life or exit, especially when you have subconscious patterns that are pulling you into situations that you interact with such people. Sometimes life puts us in situations where we need to get some lessons via such...
I am destroying myself. How can I stop?
Question Details: -something bad happened to me 8 months ago -gained 15 kgs since then -developed a habit of binge eating, cant stop, use eating as a distraction -low self esteem -doubting my religion, not doing anything throughout the day -not studying, failing the...
How can I be able to get a partner if I’m so ugly?
Your looks may be defined as ugly for many people in this world. But whether your looks deserve love or not is completely subjective. You can love yourself even though you look ugly for some people just as another person can love you even though you look ugly...
Why do we hate people but at the same time can’t live without them?
Ultimately, everything in the universe is a part of you. If you are hating anything, you are hating a part of you. To be able to hate anything, you need to have a mental construct within yourself that says you are separate from that thing and that thing is bad, wrong,...
How can I regain my parents’ trust after telling little lies quite often?
Apologize to them for telling lies, do your best to be honest from this moment. In time, this will lead to new experiences for you and them, and their trust will develop again. You can’t control when they begin to trust you, but you can do your best to be honest from...
What is some good advice for a 17-year-old?
Everyone has different personalities, perspectives. Everyone will tell you to do something according to themselves. If you listen to them only, hear the concepts they are telling you but do not look and see truth for yourself, you will have lived life according to a...
Life is totally meaningless. We live. We die. So what’s the point?
You are right. Life is meaningless. No single meaning can capture the essence of life. When we try to capture life into concepts, the juice of life, the essence of life into concepts, and then forget about this essence, the concepts we have created seem meaningless to...
I read lots of books and articles but seem to forget most of what I have learned in them, how can I remember what I learned?
You will remember what is truly important to you. Read only what is truly important to you, and you will have a pretty good record of remembering. What is not truly important to you is not worth remembering anyway.
Question to My Guru and Answer, Which Comes Right After I Myself am Able to Discern a Similar Answer
Some days ago I had asked the following question (a few emotional lines have been omitted by my guru to make it more clear for the public) and today I received the answer. Below the answer of my guru, I am giving a link to a blog post I wrote a few days ago, which I...