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I work as a developer. Whenever I receive an email from someone complaining about something I did (mostly small things which happen rarely), I feel really bad and wouldn’t stop thinking about it for days. It’s killing me and sometimes I wouldn’t be able to sleep at...
Topic: Awareness
How do genius’s overcome boredom/lack of motivation? I can’t get motivated for school work, its too easy. What can I do to help myself?
Boredom is overcome by highly concentrated meditativeness and living your life from this state. The following video will teach the principle of it. It explains why people get bored while meditating but the same exact principle is applicable to whole life by living...
How do I stop thinking about gaming every single second?
Apply these steps in order: 1. Watch and do this guided meditation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxizxuTSQsk&feature=emb_logo 2. Do step 1, until you feel enough clarity to focus on reading this article about meditation: What is meditation? How to practice...
How do I focus on studying and stop thinking about gaming?
When we are in tune with ourselves, when we know that an action is truly the most important at the moment, when we truly feel its importance to our core, when we realize other alternatives are not what we truly desire, we attempt to do/move towards doing that action....
How can I listen better in class while copying down notes at the same time?
I am designing a solution for you based upon my education and later research and practice of meditation: Develop your ability to stay as awareness out of class and in class in a consistent basis. Read this article, it is teaching how to do this: What is meditation?...
What keeps you motivated to work hard on achieving your dreams?
I have been working more and more to become a heart centered person. When we are heart centered, our actions and our desires enter into a trend where they become more and more aligned. And when they are increasingly more aligned, we feel less incongruity, less...
What should I do to reduce my shyness?
Wikipedia contains this sentence inside the definition of shyness: `The primary defining characteristic of shyness is a largely ego-driven fear of what other people will think of a person's behavior.` Your question feels sensible, because you don’t want to destroy...
How do I overcome doubt?
Question Details: I think that I'm not good enough to study my dream course. In high school I always thought I was going to fail but I ended up with somewhat decent marks my friends say. Doubts are on the more surface level of our minds. On the depth of ourselves is...
There are certain things in my past that I am not proud of, to put it lightly. How do I get over these things?
The events of the past can not be changed. But we can acquire the wisdom to forgive ourselves. Eventually every ‘mistake’ we make is due to lack of awareness and directing our creative energy to create our mistakes due to the lack of this awareness. We have...
Why is overthinking bad, and how do you control it?
The disadvantage of overthinking is, your attention is fixed more than you actually need on your thoughts, and meanwhile you are missing other aspects of the present moment. The mind always tries to find happiness according to the existing conditioning you have...
How do I deal with over thinking and rehashing a relationship that has long ended and that has turned upside down my personal and familial life?
Question Details: I am a girl. I was in a relationship with a guy for 7 years. After that, he left me and married someone else. At first, I thought I'll easily overcome this situation. It's almost two and a half years and I am not able to get over him. My friends...
How can I stop overthinking every social interaction?
Question Details: I’m way too sensitive to people and end up assuming the worst about most of the time. Its really annoying, and has caused me to avoid a lot of social interaction. I know this is a stupid question, but how can I stop? (Someone will suggest to ask for...
How important is the mindset in achieving success?
Definition of mindset obtained from Google Search: “the established set of attitudes held by someone” Whether you define success as the achievement of an external set of circumstances, such as the achievement of goals, or define it as an internal state such as peace...
How can I stop thinking about things that cannot happen because they’re haram?
Sincere practice of worship to the creator and praying that you are given the knowledge of how to live a pure life, and really dedicating yourself to this path will teach you. One must dedicate their life to this, for it to work. The real source of happiness is God,...
What are some tips for becoming successful?
Realize the impermanence of life, that life is continuously changing, and no form is permanent or can be made permanent. Therefore, if you base your success to a permanence of form, sooner or later your failure is inevitable. If one cultivates an acceptance of life...
How can I deal with someone’s statement?
It is human to feel triggered from time to time by statements by other people. Be aware of how you are feeling, do your best to stay in the present moment with awareness. Everything is interacting with everything else, this can’t be prevented. But we can learn to stay...
There is a saying, “Don’t react, but respond.” What does that mean and how can one practice it in daily life?
A part of ourselves serves as an autopilot, until we are conscious enough to live our life moment to moment with awareness. The greater we are in the moment, the less the autopilot is required. This autopilot is based on our past experience and our understanding based...
How does a youngster become successful?
Your definition of success will evolve over time. That being said: The less you empower your doubts about success and the more you stay true, the more your success will unfold in your life. Stay true? What does this mean? A part of you knows this beyond explanation,...
How can I prevent myself from using mobile constantly and follow my dream?
I admit I am working on this too, but I feel I have made some progress. ‘Mobile’ allows us to mentally browse through a huge amount of experiences in the world. Because through mobile (videos/audio/text) you can access a mental stream of information about the...
How did you get rid of overthinking?
Yes, I had a very active mind and furthermore I was identified with the thought structure in my mind as myself. I was a seeker of truth, and gave a lot of intellectual effort in understanding the nature of reality, and also trained myself physically (martial arts and...
How can I stop comparing my grade results to others better than me?
Question Details: I always get quite depressed when my friend gets the same grade as me without even trying hard, while I gave all I had. There is also the smartest boy in class who aces every assessment - it stresses and deteriorates me. I can't help but to...
Is it really possible to change through sheer will and hard work? Can you really overcome illnesses or habits you have had for years?
If what you call as sheer will is resisting the flow of life, and you keep working hard in that direction, you will experience a lot of frustration. Your efforts are not being wasted, you are just creating a lot of frustration. This frustration I think would create a...
How do I best enter the world/culture of self improvement?
I will tell you the core principle of self improvement. It is consciousness. It is awareness. It is your innate nature. It is discovering who you are. Therefore the best you can enter this world of self improvement is being true to yourself moment to moment, with keen...
How do I stop laziness from ruining my life?
Learn meditation AND practice it on a persistent basis (start with short times like 5 minutes, then increase to 20 mins daily initially). A regular practice of meditation will gradually teach you and bring you to a state of calm, peaceful, relaxed awareness from where...
How do you deal with living with judgmental people (only 2 more months)?
The answer I will write is intended to facilitate a step towards the direction you desire, not explain all the steps you will take to get there, because you will need to live your life and face your unique circumstances as these steps are revealed. I would need to be...
How can I like myself?
To define Love in words exhaustively is impossible. We all have unique personalities, and at any certain moment, Love will mean something different to each person. But, when we go beyond our minds, and feel the energy of Love directly, it is the same experience. You...
How do I get rid of toxic people in my life?
You can’t always control which people will enter your life or exit, especially when you have subconscious patterns that are pulling you into situations that you interact with such people. Sometimes life puts us in situations where we need to get some lessons via such...
I am destroying myself. How can I stop?
Question Details: -something bad happened to me 8 months ago -gained 15 kgs since then -developed a habit of binge eating, cant stop, use eating as a distraction -low self esteem -doubting my religion, not doing anything throughout the day -not studying, failing the...
What is some good advice for a 17-year-old?
Everyone has different personalities, perspectives. Everyone will tell you to do something according to themselves. If you listen to them only, hear the concepts they are telling you but do not look and see truth for yourself, you will have lived life according to a...
Life is totally meaningless. We live. We die. So what’s the point?
You are right. Life is meaningless. No single meaning can capture the essence of life. When we try to capture life into concepts, the juice of life, the essence of life into concepts, and then forget about this essence, the concepts we have created seem meaningless to...
Contemplations on Money, What to do in Life, Life Coaching, Anxiety, Covering Emotions with Food or Other Activities
Here is a message/contemplation I have shared with a friend.. I have been contemplatingso, i am staying as awareness.. and life goes on..i do chores and such.. and then nothing to do left.. i sit in front of the computer.. after a while.. i start to feel like i must...
Every Experience is an Opportunity to Find Yourself
I was chatting with a neighbor in his house on religion and spirituality. He was asking me about the purpose of religions. He is kind of an agnostic, and is skeptical of the purpose of religions. My answer was, in most cases they were systems put in place by their...
The Story of The ACC Civilization
About the Writings in This Site
More on What This Site is About
We are life. Life is 'experiencing'. When I look at it, I can sense that possibilities of experience are ranging to infinity, going beyond my human imagination. Centered on my body, I become aware of the possibilities for me in this life. This is like an unopened...
Anger or Mud?
Two Steps Forward, One Step Back and It’s All OK.
The System That Will Give Us Happiness
Contemplation About a New Mode of Living
Here is what I shared with a friend today, I am also sharing this raw and unedited here: [2:43:39 AM] Erdal Bora: i am at a dilemma.. just wanted to share .. [2:43:47 AM] Erdal Bora: so that you can see the whole picture of me [2:44:47 AM] Erdal Bora: now.. today.. i...
On Shame, Love, Hope, Spiritual Growth and Enlightenment
The Solution to All of Humanity’s Problems
How To Be More Fulfilled With Less Struggle
There are two ways to feel fulfilled that I know of. The first of these approaches is to feel fulfilled by working to fulfill the conditions that we believe will fulfill us. We do actions that we think that would give us happiness. Such as achieving goals,...
Making Peace With Mental Confusion and Transforming the Mind
On Patience, Forgiveness, Trust
How to Solve ALL Your Problems -2
In the first article of this series, which I didn't know was to be a series :), I made an energetic entry to the topic, but did not elaborate intellectually on it for those who desire to understand what I am talking about more at an intellectual level. Some...
How to Solve ALL Your Problems
This is the third time I start writing this article. I discarded the two previous starts, first was getting too analytical and in the second one I started to write at a friend's house and he interrupted me to express himself and I allowed him. Every moment I am a new...