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Self-knowledge increases our capacity of creative power. Ignorance diminishes it. We are always creating but how intensely we experience life depends on how much energy we can embody within our vessel. The more awakened we are, the more we can consciously direct this...
Topic: Understanding
What does burnout do to your brain?
I am not medically qualified to answer your question. This is a research topic and you can check scientific journals etc. for a scientific answer. However, if you asked this question to learn more about how to heal burnout, I would suggest you consider this analogy...
How can I learn to accept compliments better?
The lesser your ego, the lesser it’s reactions will be able to pull you around, when it is triggered by the environment/compliments. The more awakened you are, the less you will be empowering the ego. Are compliments that different than chastisements? Perhaps...
How does having severe depression negatively affect work performance and work ethic?
Hello, It can severely affect your performance (depending on how accustomed you are to have been already masking it as a habit). However, if you strive to be honest, your work ethic will not be compromised. Depending on your employer’s understanding, you may be...
Why can’t I control my intrusive thoughts no matter how much I try?
Note: For a quick answer, skip to the end and study the last video. However, I suggest studying this answer as well to gain a path to fuller understanding. Let’s give an analogy that might help you understand the situation from a wider perspective. Imagine that you...
What is the best way to deal with a competitor who keeps trying to copy you?
Lead them. Always be ahead by doing what you love. Take Tesla’s/Elon Musk’s example. They are always better than their competitors in creating the newest, most useful technology, because they are always working with dedication, passion and creativity, not from a lack...
I replay unwanted thoughts in my head over and over again while doing a certain action until it “feels right”. I heard this is OCD. It’s difficult to control and I hate it. How can I make these compulsions stop?
Currently who you think you are is a construct of thoughts. But in reality, you are the awareness that is the container of everything, including your thoughts, your emotions and your body. You are trying to stop the thoughts by staying identified with some other...
What can people do to make the most use of their time getting to work and being productive during the commute?
Look within yourself and see what is of most value to you that is doable during a commute. Books that you consciously picked? Other resources to browse that can support your growth and help you discover your creativity, how to create more value, or just be able to...
As a writer, do you feel that exercise helps spur your creativity? If so, is there a particular activity you like to participate in to help get the juices in your brain flowing?
Firstly, I would like to point out an aspect of exercise that I think helps with creating more flow. It is breath awareness and body awareness. Normally, humans are conditioned to keep their attention mainly in their forehead region in their thoughts. For women, their...
How can I be sure if I’m pretty or not? All my friends say I’m pretty but I feel like they just say that not to break my heart.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. For some people you will be pretty, and some will not find you pretty. This is entirely according to their conditioning. Enlightened people see the perfection of life. For them, everything is perfect. For them, you are one with...
Isn’t Zen Buddhism anti-science? It tells you to stop thinking and focus on mind numbness.
I don’t know in detail about the later interpretations of the Buddha. But true meditation is the most scientific approach possible. It is not numbing the mind, it is staying aware, staying as awareness with your experience. When awareness merges with an object, our...
What tips do you have for being better at motivational speaking?
Be authentic. Speak from experience and (live) from your heart. If nobody happens to be around, perfect. Be alone, but be happy from your own presence. One person can come and listen, and this is fine. A crowd is listening.. all the same.. Just take care to be...
What can I do if I don’t want to put in hard work to help myself with my mental health?
Stay aware of your situation. Be honest. Be loving to yourself. Healing does not require one to fight with their mind. No matter how hard you fight with your mind, you can’t win that way. Fighting implies what you fight is external to you and that you can defeat it by...
Overthinking is ruining my life. Why do I do this? Do I need to consult a doctor, or will I end up my whole life under the control of my mind?
You are not doing this directly. You are doing this without being aware of how you are doing this. You are not aware of who you truly are, you are identified with a structure in your mind that you think you are. Your understanding of who you are is inaccurate and your...
What is wrong with me if all stuff about spirituality (e.g., chakras, mantra, meditations, astral projection) do not work on me? What is wrong with me, I just feel all of these are placebo?
Spirituality is about being aware of life as it is. It is the study of life with awareness. Everybody might be talking about concepts that they have no experience in, and they can talk about these concepts, and you can hear and affirm these concepts but.. where is...
What are the degrees I can do that do not completely focus on memorization (if you know what I mean)?
It is not about the degree, it is about who is teaching. Find enlightened teachers. They will not be focusing on living from the past. On memory. They will be teaching you to be in the present, to be yourself. It is about the understanding of the teacher that what...
Why does it often take so long to recover from job-related burnout?
Because ultimately, it was not because of the job. It is because of how you see yourself, how you see life. It is because you keep seeking happiness from outside yourself, thinking that you don’t have the innate ability to create it, and some other thing can give you...
What is the best nootropic or nootropic stack to take prior to a job interview?
As you asked this question to me, I will answer it to give a different perspective for you to consider. The answer in my personal opinion is: None. Go as yourself and if you fail; perfect. It would be a chance for you to let go of the idea that you had to get this job...
If I confess that I am a sinner then am I forgiven and therefore not a sinner? If I must confess that I am a sinner in order for Jesus to forgive me then am I truly a sinner or not?
Sin is when you keep believing you are separate from God. Such as a God out there judging you to be good or bad. See.. when you separate God’s creation into good and bad, within your mind, all the while remaining unaware that you are the entirety of this all, one with...
Will I ever be able to journey through meditation if I can’t visualise objects and places? All I can see when I close my eyes is an endless tunnel. It never leads anywhere. I have spent hours trying whilst listening to drumming. It’s just darkness.
Try this article, it will answer your question along with giving you a concise and accurate definition of what meditation is and how to practice meditation. There are a large number of different practices being called meditation today, but most of them create more...
Two Ideas That Are Limiting Humanity. And What Is Beyond This?
Does being completely sober help you become more productive in your daily tasks?
The more clarity you have in your mind, the more effective your actions will be. With a mind in chaos, you won’t be able to accomplish what truly matters to you with efficiency. Even while being sober, the mind needs to be purified to become peaceful and calm to have...
What’s the easiest way to fix negative self worth?
Meditating on the SELF. You are the SELF, which is all life, the entirety of life. Negative self worth is an experience of suffering. Every person has their own words to express their suffering. You have used those words. Suffering exists because at some level we...
What do I need to know as a young motivational speaker?
No one owns life.. No one is innately superior.. We are all the same consciousness, same life. So, in my understanding, what is needed is to be alive, is to be oneself, is to be real. Motivation… The desire for motivation is actually the desire to know life, know it...
I need some help reducing stress, can you please give me some advice?
We suffer because of our resistance to what is. The more we resist, the greater the suffering. We resist, because we want to uphold an identity, a separate sense of self that we think we are. This identity is called the ego. Deep inside we know that we are one with...
What is your fastest way to reduce your own stress?
I stop creating stress to the best of my knowledge at that given time. Lately, I focus on the Spiritual Heart as strongly/one pointedly as I can and stay as Awareness. I let the stress be as it is, and let the energy of Love do the work of purification. I am aware...
Liberation from All Addictions – The Case of Smoking
Hello friends, In this article, I will tell you how we can be free from our addictions in general and how we can quit smoking in particular. I felt the need to add this sentence when I was in the middle of writing the article: Since this is an article that touches on...
What are the Differences Between Ordinary Thinking and Critical Thinking?
Google dictionary for critical thinking says: “Critical thinking is the objective analysis and evaluation of an issue in order to form a judgement.” It is very common and ordinary to be semi-conscious, or mostly unconscious about what is going on within one’s mind in...
What is the Best Practical Test to Give Students After Delivering a Training on Self-Motivation?
Love them unconditionally. This is the greatest test. This is such a test that, it will show them a mirror of their highest potential, but leave them free to choose their approach also. It is impossible to fail in this test, because this test is so nurturing that, no...
What Does Motivation Look Like?
Motivation is an experience. It is a state of ‘experiencing’. It is being alive. Being conscious. Being present. It is when you are here and now, when your attention is in the moment, when you are living life as fully as possible. When your attention is primarily in...
How Can I Stop Being My Own Worst Enemy?
In the comments section you have written that you were depreciated, deprecated and denigrated all the time as a child and you run yourself down because of this behavior, and that you feel you don’t count as a person. You were raised in an environment where you were...
How do I stop thinking dirty?
The more you correctly meditate, the more you will experience a purity of mind. When our mind is conditioned to seek happiness outside of itself, our sexual energy is subconsciously channeled towards objects in the world. When we learn/discover the unconditional love...
How do I stop being lazy as a teenager?
I want to stop being lazy,depressed. I want to become hardworking, get good grades, have a good life, get fit. I am lazy and tired every single minute of the day. I dont know what to do. What should I do? Please help me. You are the creator of your life, and you have...
How can I stop thinking about work constantly?
I work as a developer. Whenever I receive an email from someone complaining about something I did (mostly small things which happen rarely), I feel really bad and wouldn’t stop thinking about it for days. It’s killing me and sometimes I wouldn’t be able to sleep at...
How do I have better luck in dating as a guy, if I’m struggling with being boring?
This will be a definite answer to your question. The mechanism of the mind is that it seeks unconditional love. The conditioning of the mind determines how it seeks it, but it always seeks this unless it is being experienced in the present moment. Unconditional love...
How do I stop thinking about gaming every single second?
Apply these steps in order: 1. Watch and do this guided meditation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxizxuTSQsk&feature=emb_logo 2. Do step 1, until you feel enough clarity to focus on reading this article about meditation: What is meditation? How to practice...
How do I focus on studying and stop thinking about gaming?
When we are in tune with ourselves, when we know that an action is truly the most important at the moment, when we truly feel its importance to our core, when we realize other alternatives are not what we truly desire, we attempt to do/move towards doing that action....
How do I become good at something, and how can I find out what that something is?
Ultimately, you can become good at anything, you can become anything. The entire universe is YOU. You can create any experience. The catch is, you don’t believe it right now. You believe yourself to be a limited person. Which is OK. Be totally honest with yourself and...
How do I stop overthinking about too much gaming?
It is wonderful and perfectly natural that you want to be happy. It is a great experience to be happy while playing games. However; ask yourself this question: Do you truly want to play games to a degree that would harm you, steal from you possibilities in your life...
How can I listen better in class while copying down notes at the same time?
I am designing a solution for you based upon my education and later research and practice of meditation: Develop your ability to stay as awareness out of class and in class in a consistent basis. Read this article, it is teaching how to do this: What is meditation?...
What keeps you motivated to work hard on achieving your dreams?
I have been working more and more to become a heart centered person. When we are heart centered, our actions and our desires enter into a trend where they become more and more aligned. And when they are increasingly more aligned, we feel less incongruity, less...
What should I do to reduce my shyness?
Wikipedia contains this sentence inside the definition of shyness: `The primary defining characteristic of shyness is a largely ego-driven fear of what other people will think of a person's behavior.` Your question feels sensible, because you don’t want to destroy...
Is overthinking a bad thing to a human person?
It doesn’t help with overthinking adding another thought that ‘Overthinking is bad’. Other people might be saying overthinking is bad, but what is your own experience? We must observe our own experience and see what is really happening and this way genuinely increase...
There are certain things in my past that I am not proud of, to put it lightly. How do I get over these things?
The events of the past can not be changed. But we can acquire the wisdom to forgive ourselves. Eventually every ‘mistake’ we make is due to lack of awareness and directing our creative energy to create our mistakes due to the lack of this awareness. We have...
How can I stop overthinking every social interaction?
Question Details: I’m way too sensitive to people and end up assuming the worst about most of the time. Its really annoying, and has caused me to avoid a lot of social interaction. I know this is a stupid question, but how can I stop? (Someone will suggest to ask for...
How can I stop thinking about things that cannot happen because they’re haram?
Sincere practice of worship to the creator and praying that you are given the knowledge of how to live a pure life, and really dedicating yourself to this path will teach you. One must dedicate their life to this, for it to work. The real source of happiness is God,...
How do you motivate developers without having to micromanage?
Your company/department needs to have passionate leadership working towards goals that right people would be inspired to work for. Working with such leadership, inspired people can work without micromanagement. This is the ideal case. You yourself need to be inspired...
What is the most effective way to help billions of people be kinder and a little more caring?
Do your absolute best your entire life to embody these qualities. Sincere effort based on sincere desire become teachings for the person leading to enlightenment. Since there is no separation, and everything is interconnected, your efforts and awakening will have...
Do I have a psychological problem? How can I overcome it?
Express what you call ‘it’ as clearly and openly as you can to a trusted person who is knowledgeable in psychology. This way you can learn if you have a psychological problem from the perspective of psychology. How you can overcome ‘it’ depends on the nature of what...
There is a saying, “Don’t react, but respond.” What does that mean and how can one practice it in daily life?
A part of ourselves serves as an autopilot, until we are conscious enough to live our life moment to moment with awareness. The greater we are in the moment, the less the autopilot is required. This autopilot is based on our past experience and our understanding based...