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All Writings
This section contains all my writings on life, personal growth and my life story, written and shared with the purpose of supporting all of us in our life journey. On the left side (scroll to bottom on phones), you can use the search function, quick shortcuts to post category pages, and an extensive list of topic tags linking to related posts to find the content that would interest you. Below each post’s page, you can also find links to related posts. From these writings, you can follow the evolution of my understanding over the years based on strong spiritual principles and following my heart. I hope that you benefit from these writings in your own growth journey. Enjoy!
How can I stop overthinking every social interaction?
Question Details: I’m way too sensitive to people and end up assuming the worst about most of the time. Its really annoying, and has caused me to avoid a lot of social interaction. I know this is a stupid question, but how can I stop? (Someone will suggest to ask for...
How important is the mindset in achieving success?
Definition of mindset obtained from Google Search: “the established set of attitudes held by someone” Whether you define success as the achievement of an external set of circumstances, such as the achievement of goals, or define it as an internal state such as peace...
How do I live a decent thug life?
I will base my answer on this definition of Thug Life: “Thug life means opposite of someone having all he needs to succeed. Thug life is when you have nothing, and succeed, when you have overcome all obstacles to reach your aim” from Urban Dictionary. Everything in...
How can I stop thinking about things that cannot happen because they’re haram?
Sincere practice of worship to the creator and praying that you are given the knowledge of how to live a pure life, and really dedicating yourself to this path will teach you. One must dedicate their life to this, for it to work. The real source of happiness is God,...
Even though I know I can do many things, somehow I can keep myself on track. What should I do to force myself to my highest limits?
Do your best in every moment. This will lead you to realize that there are no limits and you have always been free. (This is an intuitive answer, I have made a lot of progress with this, and I know I am getting closer and closer to the full experience of this) I don’t...
How do I become personable?
I googled personable to have a starting context for this answer: “personable: (of a person) having a pleasant appearance and manner.” There are two ways that come to my mind: Actors can impersonate any person.. so learning acting you can act a personable persona. You...
What do you think about the future trend of people wanting to work and travel together, like a co-working space and a hostel?
Providing services from the Internet as a business or managing a business via mobile means is a rising trend as the people of the world is communicating more and more by using the Internet. Travel is also getting easier as technology is getting more and more advanced....
What are some tips for becoming successful?
Realize the impermanence of life, that life is continuously changing, and no form is permanent or can be made permanent. Therefore, if you base your success to a permanence of form, sooner or later your failure is inevitable. If one cultivates an acceptance of life...
How can I deal with someone’s statement?
It is human to feel triggered from time to time by statements by other people. Be aware of how you are feeling, do your best to stay in the present moment with awareness. Everything is interacting with everything else, this can’t be prevented. But we can learn to stay...
How do I make myself a good person?
Question Details: Everyone have shades of white, black and grey in them. How to be more of a white minded person (nothing to do with racism or skin colour here) When you believe you are not good enough and start on top of this belief to make your self good, you are...
How do you motivate developers without having to micromanage?
Your company/department needs to have passionate leadership working towards goals that right people would be inspired to work for. Working with such leadership, inspired people can work without micromanagement. This is the ideal case. You yourself need to be inspired...
What is the most effective way to help billions of people be kinder and a little more caring?
Do your absolute best your entire life to embody these qualities. Sincere effort based on sincere desire become teachings for the person leading to enlightenment. Since there is no separation, and everything is interconnected, your efforts and awakening will have...
Do I have a psychological problem? How can I overcome it?
Express what you call ‘it’ as clearly and openly as you can to a trusted person who is knowledgeable in psychology. This way you can learn if you have a psychological problem from the perspective of psychology. How you can overcome ‘it’ depends on the nature of what...
There is a saying, “Don’t react, but respond.” What does that mean and how can one practice it in daily life?
A part of ourselves serves as an autopilot, until we are conscious enough to live our life moment to moment with awareness. The greater we are in the moment, the less the autopilot is required. This autopilot is based on our past experience and our understanding based...
How do I overcome pressure of society and my inner self?
Question Details: I'm giving 12th boards right now and my exams are not going well I'm scared,lot of expectations I've broke, there is going to be a lot of comments also from my own mother about my failure,I have inner self esteem destroyed too, I wanted above 90% but...
How does a youngster become successful?
Your definition of success will evolve over time. That being said: The less you empower your doubts about success and the more you stay true, the more your success will unfold in your life. Stay true? What does this mean? A part of you knows this beyond explanation,...
How can I prevent myself from using mobile constantly and follow my dream?
I admit I am working on this too, but I feel I have made some progress. ‘Mobile’ allows us to mentally browse through a huge amount of experiences in the world. Because through mobile (videos/audio/text) you can access a mental stream of information about the...
How did you get rid of overthinking?
Yes, I had a very active mind and furthermore I was identified with the thought structure in my mind as myself. I was a seeker of truth, and gave a lot of intellectual effort in understanding the nature of reality, and also trained myself physically (martial arts and...
How can I stop comparing my grade results to others better than me?
Question Details: I always get quite depressed when my friend gets the same grade as me without even trying hard, while I gave all I had. There is also the smartest boy in class who aces every assessment - it stresses and deteriorates me. I can't help but to...
Is it really possible to change through sheer will and hard work? Can you really overcome illnesses or habits you have had for years?
If what you call as sheer will is resisting the flow of life, and you keep working hard in that direction, you will experience a lot of frustration. Your efforts are not being wasted, you are just creating a lot of frustration. This frustration I think would create a...
How do I best enter the world/culture of self improvement?
I will tell you the core principle of self improvement. It is consciousness. It is awareness. It is your innate nature. It is discovering who you are. Therefore the best you can enter this world of self improvement is being true to yourself moment to moment, with keen...
How do I stop laziness from ruining my life?
Learn meditation AND practice it on a persistent basis (start with short times like 5 minutes, then increase to 20 mins daily initially). A regular practice of meditation will gradually teach you and bring you to a state of calm, peaceful, relaxed awareness from where...
How do you deal with living with judgmental people (only 2 more months)?
The answer I will write is intended to facilitate a step towards the direction you desire, not explain all the steps you will take to get there, because you will need to live your life and face your unique circumstances as these steps are revealed. I would need to be...
How can I like myself?
To define Love in words exhaustively is impossible. We all have unique personalities, and at any certain moment, Love will mean something different to each person. But, when we go beyond our minds, and feel the energy of Love directly, it is the same experience. You...
How do I get rid of toxic people in my life?
You can’t always control which people will enter your life or exit, especially when you have subconscious patterns that are pulling you into situations that you interact with such people. Sometimes life puts us in situations where we need to get some lessons via such...
I am destroying myself. How can I stop?
Question Details: -something bad happened to me 8 months ago -gained 15 kgs since then -developed a habit of binge eating, cant stop, use eating as a distraction -low self esteem -doubting my religion, not doing anything throughout the day -not studying, failing the...
How can I be able to get a partner if I’m so ugly?
Your looks may be defined as ugly for many people in this world. But whether your looks deserve love or not is completely subjective. You can love yourself even though you look ugly for some people just as another person can love you even though you look ugly...
Why do we hate people but at the same time can’t live without them?
Ultimately, everything in the universe is a part of you. If you are hating anything, you are hating a part of you. To be able to hate anything, you need to have a mental construct within yourself that says you are separate from that thing and that thing is bad, wrong,...
How can I regain my parents’ trust after telling little lies quite often?
Apologize to them for telling lies, do your best to be honest from this moment. In time, this will lead to new experiences for you and them, and their trust will develop again. You can’t control when they begin to trust you, but you can do your best to be honest from...
What is some good advice for a 17-year-old?
Everyone has different personalities, perspectives. Everyone will tell you to do something according to themselves. If you listen to them only, hear the concepts they are telling you but do not look and see truth for yourself, you will have lived life according to a...
Life is totally meaningless. We live. We die. So what’s the point?
You are right. Life is meaningless. No single meaning can capture the essence of life. When we try to capture life into concepts, the juice of life, the essence of life into concepts, and then forget about this essence, the concepts we have created seem meaningless to...
Self Loving Approach to Working
I just sent this to a friend after contemplating on why I was reluctant to apply on freelance jobs and about my work life.. how I wanted to work in this world. We both thought it was worth sharing: “I find that when i say i love you to myself it helps with my attitude...
Contemplations on Money, What to do in Life, Life Coaching, Anxiety, Covering Emotions with Food or Other Activities
Here is a message/contemplation I have shared with a friend.. I have been contemplatingso, i am staying as awareness.. and life goes on..i do chores and such.. and then nothing to do left.. i sit in front of the computer.. after a while.. i start to feel like i must...
Every Experience is an Opportunity to Find Yourself
I was chatting with a neighbor in his house on religion and spirituality. He was asking me about the purpose of religions. He is kind of an agnostic, and is skeptical of the purpose of religions. My answer was, in most cases they were systems put in place by their...
Riker Lets Go of Something
I thought it would be good to share a some insights I expressed while chatting with a friend. The excerpt contains some insights about peace, happiness and the desire for money, approval and fame, Me: Riker lets go of something; ...
The Story of The ACC Civilization
About the Writings in This Site
More on What This Site is About
We are life. Life is 'experiencing'. When I look at it, I can sense that possibilities of experience are ranging to infinity, going beyond my human imagination. Centered on my body, I become aware of the possibilities for me in this life. This is like an unopened...
Anger or Mud?
Two Steps Forward, One Step Back and It’s All OK.
The System That Will Give Us Happiness
Contemplation About a New Mode of Living
Here is what I shared with a friend today, I am also sharing this raw and unedited here: [2:43:39 AM] Erdal Bora: i am at a dilemma.. just wanted to share .. [2:43:47 AM] Erdal Bora: so that you can see the whole picture of me [2:44:47 AM] Erdal Bora: now.. today.. i...
Creating erdalbora.com and Migrating Content from Previous Site
I have been working for the last couple of weeks to create a self hosted, multilingual Wordpress based personal website. I have been setting up the software and moving the content from my previous site erdalbora.wordpress.com which I will be gradually phasing out. I...
On Shame, Love, Hope, Spiritual Growth and Enlightenment
I read lots of books and articles but seem to forget most of what I have learned in them, how can I remember what I learned?
You will remember what is truly important to you. Read only what is truly important to you, and you will have a pretty good record of remembering. What is not truly important to you is not worth remembering anyway.
The Solution to All of Humanity’s Problems
How To Be More Fulfilled With Less Struggle
There are two ways to feel fulfilled that I know of. The first of these approaches is to feel fulfilled by working to fulfill the conditions that we believe will fulfill us. We do actions that we think that would give us happiness. Such as achieving goals,...
The Desire to Awaken
Making Peace With Mental Confusion and Transforming the Mind
On Patience, Forgiveness, Trust
How to Solve ALL Your Problems -2
In the first article of this series, which I didn't know was to be a series :), I made an energetic entry to the topic, but did not elaborate intellectually on it for those who desire to understand what I am talking about more at an intellectual level. Some...
How to Solve ALL Your Problems
This is the third time I start writing this article. I discarded the two previous starts, first was getting too analytical and in the second one I started to write at a friend's house and he interrupted me to express himself and I allowed him. Every moment I am a new...
You Are Free
The Secret to Unshakable Confidence
Love is Learned with Love
How to Come Back from the Dark Side of the Force?
Remember: The Force Will Be With You, Always.
Now. I had to write this article. It has been getting into shape within my mind, not the contents, but just the picture at the start, and just the title. The rest is energy that is asking to be let into this world. And now is the time. The Force.. Jedi.. The Dark...
On the Importance of Unconditional Love in Helping People and Building Relationships
Why Is Unconditional Love So Important When Helping/Relating With Other People
When you focus on Divine Love, this Love starts to purify you. It heals you. It helps you heal those energies that are stuck within you. By keeping your attention on Divine Love and staying as awareness, you give your Higher Self the permission to teach you with...
Power, Responsibility, Impeccability and Surrender
Some minutes ago, I shook my head and put a hand to my mouth. I was surprised how seemingly small words can trigger great energies from people. But I am now fairly certain that Divine Love never betrays you. It only helps you. As I said in the previous post, I have...
The Powerful Energy Of The Spiritual Heart
Lately, in my life, I have been focusing on the Spiritual Heart on irregular times throughout the day, trying to somewhat maintain this focus and make it continuous. I have become more and more aware that this has a powerful purifying effect in my life. I feel as if I...
On Being Honest and Being Rejected
What Does a Happy Man Do?
Life Happens and I am Awakening
I wasn't going to write another post until I had a deep awakening. Well, I want to write one now, because I feel it is worth it. For a long time, I tried to fight with some of my desires in life. This led to inner conflict. Now, I am changing strategy. My strategy is...
This Will be My Last Message Until I Achieve a Great Breakthrough in Awakening
I now see that I need to completely drop identification with my thinking mind to reach enlightenment and practice this state until I reach enlightenment. I cannot control myself while opting to remain a person with a personality. This way my past never leaves me, I am...
Lost the Center Again and Gradually Lost the Fast, But Regained Some Centeredness After Some Effort
I gradually lost my center when I started to focus on the idea that I had to build a hut in the field to meditate and take care of the animals in an easier way. The problem here was that I lost the surrendered state, the state of trust to life, after and during a...
Limiting the Scope of My Digital Fast
I am continuing my digital fast but will make an exception for a single activity. I need some money to setup my hut and I need some online income. I will limit my online activity to only working. So basically, I will take extreme care to stay away from social...
Going on a Digital Fast
Hello, I am going on a digital fast for at least a few months. I won't be available for life coaching and other online activities during this period. Stay in Love. Update 1: Limiting the Scope of My Digital Fast Update 2: Lost the Center Again and Gradually Lost...
Towards Enlightenment (11): To Surrender One Hundred Percent or Not to Surrender One Hundred Percent, That is the Question on this Path.
Towards Enlightenment (10): Maybe There Is a Downward Spiral There. Or Maybe There Isn’t.
Towards Enlightenment (9): Downward Spiral Accompanied by Vivaldi
Towards Enlightenment (8): Continuity in Focus. What Do You Really Want?
Towards Enlightenment (7): The Ego Strikes Back… And Then…
Towards Enlightenment (6): From Morning Thought Soup to Clear Mind / Some People I’ve Learned From
Towards Enlightenment (5): Waking up While Drifting Off / An Introduction to Energy Capacity
Towards Enlightenment (4): About Moving Beyond the Understanding: “It’s not happening. I cannot focus, I am distracted by desires, by life. I feel very sad.”
Towards Enlightenment (3): What Can Be Done About Losing Focus/Getting Distracted?
Towards Enlightenment (2): The Ground Floor of Heaven is All Well and Good, but How Do We Get In?
Towards Enlightenment (1): The Ground Floor of Heaven and the Slowly Boiled Frog Syndrome
Freedom! – How to Free Oneself from the System and Sow the Seeds of Leaving a Beautiful World for the Future?
Stop Bullshitting Yourselves and Awaken Totally!
Until you are fully awakened, you will share the responsibility of all the suffering in the world, because all the suffering it in the world is caused by beings who are not awakened and a sleepwalker among sleepwalkers just adds to their illusion, supporting them to...
Time to Share – Hell’s Exit Door
A Blog Post at the Bottom of the Night. It Fits the Occasion. Appearing as You Are/Being as You Appear
Heaven
In the Islamic teachings that I have been taught, from you know.. elders in the family and hearsay.. heaven was told to me as the place where all your desires will be granted. And in the highest place in heaven, you will get to see God. These beliefs are from my...
All Lives are Sacred and Everything is Possible
I am nowadays going from 'I should do something with my life' to 'all lives are sacred and everything is possible' attitude to life. I mean, isn't everything happening through our choices? Isn't the universe perfect? Wouldn't your Soul be able to incarnate anywhere it...
How to Trust the Universe/Life?
This article will be challenging for me. But I trust 🙂 I will create something good. Let's ask and attempt to answer the following questions to create a context for starting to tackle the main question: 1) Is the universe, is life inherently trustworthy? If we...
How to Be Happy/Peaceful Independent of External Circumstances
First of all, what is happiness? What is peace? Let's shake up these questions a bit and see what spills. Happiness is a word that points to an experience. If you ask what happiness is to many people, initially you will get varying answers, which may be close or far...
How Not to Earn Money From a Job and Still Be Happy, and Survive
Well, you gotta get money from somewhere. If you spend it, you need to get it from some source. But it doesn't mean you have to earn it. Money is something that most humans living in the civilized world think is valuable. Take your wallet full of money and take...
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My Current Perspective While My Energy is Increasing/Building up and Where I am Feeling Centered
I must do something. It was the thought that was in my mind today. I was centered in my heart, my energy was building up, old habits losing their momentum moment to moment. But I kept focusing on my heart. I would not worry about doing something in life. I will act...
Life Coaching
I gave a free life coaching session to somebody in US. It is not much different than a day to day interaction with a person while holding the heart-centered state. The only difference is the other person is aware that I am supporting them, and they are aware that we...
Anchoring in Love. Continuity Challenge.
In the morning I had a 2 hour meditation. After this I felt really centered and my energy shot up. I went through the tasks of the day, and generally I knew that it was about sharing Love. It is evening now and the Love still goes...
Question to My Guru and Answer, Which Comes Right After I Myself am Able to Discern a Similar Answer
Some days ago I had asked the following question (a few emotional lines have been omitted by my guru to make it more clear for the public) and today I received the answer. Below the answer of my guru, I am giving a link to a blog post I wrote a few days ago, which I...
More Info About My Life and Making the Blog Public
As I wrote in the previous post.. I have experienced both great despair and negative emotions and also peace and joy.. I just now realized that I want to focus on Love more while writing this article.. Now I am about to go public with this blog.. It was private...
Before the Last Few Blog Posts.. I Was Again out of the Loving State.
Well.. I see two distinct states: One is where I start to focus on the Love in my heart. And the experience gradually becomes more and more joyful, peaceful, happy, or good. One is where I focus on the desires of the subconscious mind, initially starts like an...
How to Help People?
Now. This is the most difficult thing to define. But yet it is the easiest thing to live if one knows how to. Hard to define because you help people by Love. Love can not be defined. Here is an attempt that would not do it justice: In any context, in any situation,...
I Want To Help People Without Caring for Money
Helping people. Is this what I really want? Yes. But the reason is this. What I really want is Love. Love. Divine Will. Surrendering to it. When I do this, it immensely helps me. It wants to express through me. It overflows. That is why I want to help other people....
In the Mood for a Blog Entry
Express through me Higher Self.. It does not need to be words. I am expressing through you always. Recognize this. All that you express is always me. I am your body. I am your mind. I am your Soul. Just where are you focusing?\ tHAT WILL BE THE ASPECT OF ME YOU...
Higher Self Give Me a Name for a Blog
Right now I am focusing on the Spiritual Heart. I will let whatever flows through in writing. My eyes will be closed. Thank God for leading me to develop a ten finger typing ability. I am tuired in body because it has been a long day and I have done significant...